Wednesday, 1 April 2009


Bullying is the abuse of one individual by another, using behaviour designed to denigrate, intimidate, humiliate, frighten, or injure the victim. Bullying can occur at home, school or at work, and no age group is immune. Beneath the tough exterior bullies usually suffer from low self-esteem, and feel inadequate, threatened or jealous.
Bullying behaviour creates a cycle of fear for the victim, leading to tearfulness, avoidant behaviour, stress-related illness and loss of self-esteem. Many victims ask ‘why me’ and look for ‘failings’ in themselves, rather than taking a hard look at the bully’s short-comings.
Unfortunately a lot of bullies are very crafty and pick on people when there are no witnesses. They can behave like ‘Jekyll and Hyde’, depending on who is watching. This can make it difficult for a person to prove that they are being bullied, especially in a work-related environment. Victims end up dreading having to go to work or school. A bully somehow ‘gets inside their head’, pervading the victims entire waking life in a pernicious way. Bullies can be psychopathic, and have a callous disregard for the feelings of others. It can be difficult to stand up to a bully. Sometimes the only solution is to walk away, but this leaves the bully with a message that his/her behaviour is acceptable. Unfortunately they will go on to seek out new victims.

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